Time for a new approach on the profile…  Like most other ladies & gents on the site, I’m a nice woman looking for a nice man who enjoys some of the things I enjoy, such as travel, variety in dining and music, and films of most genres (horror and locker room humor are out).  He must also be in agreement with me on faith and politics, which means a conservative Jesus-follower, not someone who is ‘christian’ simply because they grew up in America and hold no allegiances to alternate faiths.  Of course, I’d prefer that when we wake at 3am and look at the spouse on the other pillow, we don’t cry out in despair.  (face it, guys, you want us to fit your version of cute – shall we ask less?)

That being said, let’s get down to brass tax and challenge, as though it were a game where one could gain & lose points (which, truth be told, it pretty much is at this stage).

Points are gained for good grammar & spelling; intriguing insights; a sense of humor that doesn’t rely on the bawdy or crass; proper wearing of pants (it’s called a waistband for a reason); a gentle accepting spirit towards children, elderly, and those with a variety of limitations; military appreciation and/or service; a hearty enthusiasm for debate; a playful nature; fundamental knowledge of home repair and basic mechanics; photos that indicate you care what you look like for a first impression; answers that contain more than 3 words; musically inclined (bonus points if you sing bass and/or play guitar or piano); an adventurous spirit (bonus points for motorcycles).

Points are lost for poor grammar & word choices; crass humor; sloppy pictures; lack of selectiveness, especially in the faith category; profiles limited to “want a pretty lady to hang out with” (c’mon guys, throw us some info on where we might be ‘hanging out’).

It’s “game over” if I try to contact a man and 3 weeks later haven’t heard back – I’ll assume he simply doesn’t have the time or heart to say “thanks, but no thanks”, and throw him overboard to save us both further trouble.   Being the traditional lady, my first contact will be a simple smile – it’s on the guy to strike up a real conversation.

There – is that easier?  At least more fun to read?